One letter makes a big difference

One letter makes a big difference.  

Two words have had my attention the past eight months. Each word share the same letters. Except one.

One letter makes a big difference.

Three of my six children got married within eight months: one in December, one in July, and one in August. Three weddings have taught me that adding

One letter makes a big difference. 

Leave. Defined, this word means to go away from or to depart permanently. What happens when a C is added?

One letter makes a big difference. 


Cleave. Defined, cleave means to cling and remain faithful. 

I had a front-row seat as I witnessed each son leave. And though my seat didn't change, my position did. In a split second of time, a blink of an eye, a quick intake of breath they took their leave. For the C to be, it was necessary. 

One letter makes a big difference.

My husband performs many wedding ceremonies. He's very good at it. It's the rehearsals he leads I really appreciate. I've learned much from Kevin. My favorite part has to be when the father-of-the-bride escorts his daughter down the aisle. Bride-to-be is on the left, groom-to-be is on the right. Father-of-the-bride stands between both. And Kevin stops and brings attention to this formation. 

Our three sons desired Kevin be dad for their weddings - asking other special men in their lives to perform their ceremonies. Three sons, three different officiants, allowing Kevin to have a front row seat alongside me. But I was reminded of Kevin's words.

He makes sure everyone is aware of dad's position - standing between his daughter and the man who will become her husband the next day. He'll say something like, "Dad you're still in the picture. But something significant will happen as soon as you answer the 'who-gives-this-woman-to-be-married' question. You'll place her hand in his, step back, and you'll be out of the picture." 

At our sons weddings, I was keenly aware of this transfer. Three times, a bride's dad stepped out of the way. And when he did, my son stepped in where her dad once stood. They took their leave. 

When Andrew, on December 30, 2016, Eric, on July 8, 2017, and Troy, on August 12, 2017 took their leave, they stepped into their new position and immedaitely added a C. And now they Cleave - Andrew to Taylor, Eric to Rebecca, and Troy to Kaitlin. 

Prior to their weddings, my sons did well at honoring and respecting their momma. [That's me!] Many times, I'd receive a greeting before their girlfriend/fiance. It's just how they did it.

Until they took their leave and added a C. One letter makes a big difference.

Like the father-of-the-bride, the mother-of-the-groom must step back. Because another woman has her son's attention. 

One letter makes a big difference. 

Witnessing my sons promise a young lady's dad they would love, honor, cherish, and keep his daughter til death do them part brought great joy to my heart. These girls are in good hands. I know. Because my sons took their leave and added a C.